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Doubts and Fears

Fear is the other side of pregnancy. There is a constant apprehension of what will happen during pregnancy, labour and delivery. These apprehensions are upsetting and unsettling but hardly unusual. Women get their labour heebie jeebies at different times during pregnancy, and they vary from women to women depending on age, personality and nature. Many pregnancy fears are based on reality. Any slightest doubt should be voiced to the doctor.

Am I really going to have a baby?
You experience an uncertainty whether you are really pregnant, as you havenít  changed much, especially if you donít experience nausea. You just had a missed  period and a positive pregnancy test (The results of which you may start to  doubt!) and your mood swings compound these anxieties.

Assurance:  Donít worry, soon your pregnancy will start showing. You can hear  the babyís heart beats around the 7th-8th week, on ultrasound examination.

Will I lose the baby?
This doubt assails every motherís mind on every bump and serve and is especially so, if someone had a miscarriage earlier.

Assurance:  Jerks and bumps do not end in a miscarriage. Reassure yourself with ultrasound examination, as they are harmless for you and the baby.

Will I have a normal baby?
Every mother prays for a healthy baby, but the nagging doubt continues until the doctor has given you a clean chit, after having accounted for every toe and finger.

Assurance:  Prenatal tests help you to rule out most problems. Clarify your doubts with your doctor who will suggest appropriate tests, if there are any indications. Educate yourself by reading various informative books.

Will I have a painful labour?
Each womanís pain threshold varies and anxiety produces more tension, which increases the pain, so you dread this period. Inspite of you grilling your friends and mother who reassure you, it is not easy to know what to exactly expect.
Assurance:  Best way to deal with it, is to take it as it comes.  A relaxed mind and a bit of grit will get you through it. Also epidural analgesia (giving pain killers at the right time during labour) can help you have a comfortable painless labour.

Will I regain my figure?
You may feel unsettled seeing yourself having gained 10-12 kgs, with your size increased in all directions with enlarged breasts.

Assurance:  The weight gain is due to the baby, increase in fluids, increase in uterine size and placenta. Therefore most of the weight is shed off after delivery. A regular regime of exercise, with a doctorís approval will help you get in shape sooner. Breast feeding helps shed weight faster, at the rate of 500 cal/day more than formula fed babies.

Will the baby change my life?
Motherís fear a baby means getting tied down, increased responsibility and less free time. Adding to that might be economic pressure and a rush to get back to your career.

Assurance:  Anticipation of what is going to come is half the battle won. You will realise as a parent, how much is demanded of you. The more you give, the more will be given back to you and you will feel it was totally worth it, at the end of it all.