Shyness too is an inherited
trait. Even if its a trait parents don't display themselves, its one that they carried to
their child's conception. It's possible to modify shyness but rarely possible to eradicate
Many shy children retain an inner core of reserve all their
lives, most of turn out to be fairly sociable. Instead of worrying about or looking for a
cure of shyness, look for ways to help her have good feelings about herself, boost up the
self esteem. Even shy children can grow up to be friendly adults.
Just as personalities differ, kids vary tremendously and
normally in how they relate in school from eager beavers to quiet mice. Some children take
longer to adjust to a daily classroom routine or to a new school, or class teacher but
they eventually open up.
With support, even innately shy children can participate in
school and learn to be friendly children. You can help your child reach that goal in
Talking to the teacher
Gather information with your child's teachers and look for
ways to help make the classroom an engaging and comfortable place. Parent - Teacher
communication is an important tool for helping shy kids in school.
Bringing his interest to school
The teacher should encourage the child to bring things to
school that the child wanted to show the class e.g. stamp, shell, rocks, coin collection,
Teacher could hold a small discussion.
Even if your child doesn't speak up right away, just having
his favourite things in class can help melt his shyness.
Going to School
Most kids consider a visit from parents as a special treat.
It can make your shy child feel more comfortable at school.
Setting him up for success
Your child may be avoiding things since he doesn't think he
can do them. Provide sufficient stimulation and opportunities for success. Of many
classroom activities seen above your child's ability level make sure to tell the teacher
to simplify them. Make sure your child doesn't feel frustrated.
Focusing on his accomplishments
Doing fun and easy school activities is wonderful way to
ease participation fears. Find out what activity your child enjoys e.g. music, tennis,
etc. If your child enjoys singing at home, this can rub off in the classroom too.
Making sure he's challenged
See that your child doesn't get bored with the activities at
school since they are too easy. Ask the teacher to work on something that is more
Helping him at home
At home encourage him and prepare him too. Give your child a
chnace to practice, but try not to make it press. Young children master new skills at
different paces and there's no need to turn it into work. The idea is to build your