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If you take an objective look around in a roomful of toddlers, you would notice that your child is not the only shy one in the bunch of many of her peers.

It's also possible that what seems to be shyness in your child is just a toddler's normal lack of socialibility. Two years often are not ready to make friends.

As she approaches her fourth birthday, she may surprise you by her rapid progress in the art of socializing.

Shyness too is an inherited trait. Even if its a trait parents don't display themselves, its one that they carried to their child's conception. It's possible to modify shyness but rarely possible to eradicate it.

Many shy children retain an inner core of reserve all their lives, most of turn out to be fairly sociable. Instead of worrying about or looking for a cure of shyness, look for ways to help her have good feelings about herself, boost up the self esteem. Even shy children can grow up to be friendly adults.

Just as personalities differ, kids vary tremendously and normally in how they relate in school from eager beavers to quiet mice. Some children take longer to adjust to a daily classroom routine or to a new school, or class teacher but they eventually open up.

With support, even innately shy children can participate in school and learn to be friendly children. You can help your child reach that goal in school by:

Talking to the teacher

Gather information with your child's teachers and look for ways to help make the classroom an engaging and comfortable place. Parent - Teacher communication is an important tool for helping shy kids in school.

Bringing his interest to school

The teacher should encourage the child to bring things to school that the child wanted to show the class e.g. stamp, shell, rocks, coin collection, etc.

Teacher could hold a small discussion.

Even if your child doesn't speak up right away, just having his favourite things in class can help melt his shyness.

Going to School

Most kids consider a visit from parents as a special treat. It can make your shy child feel more comfortable at school.

Setting him up for success

Your child may be avoiding things since he doesn't think he can do them. Provide sufficient stimulation and opportunities for success. Of many classroom activities seen above your child's ability level make sure to tell the teacher to simplify them. Make sure your child doesn't feel frustrated.

Focusing on his accomplishments

Doing fun and easy school activities is wonderful way to ease participation fears. Find out what activity your child enjoys e.g. music, tennis, etc. If your child enjoys singing at home, this can rub off in the classroom too.

Making sure he's challenged

See that your child doesn't get bored with the activities at school since they are too easy. Ask the teacher to work on something that is more challenging.

Helping him at home

At home encourage him and prepare him too. Give your child a chnace to practice, but try not to make it press. Young children master new skills at different paces and there's no need to turn it into work. The idea is to build your child's confidence.


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