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FIGHTING IN FRONT OF CHILDREN

Children who comes from homes with high level negativity where there is a lot of conflict and unsatisfactory conflict involving physical abuse, verbal attacks, power assertion, or the use of withdrawal tactics are least likely to do well in any strata of life. Many a times parents fight and make up but they don't realize that their fight affects not just two of them but also their children.

Children are very sensitive and observant. They pick up on the tensions and undercurrents. Children's world revolves round their parents. Parents are their security blanket. This security gives a child his confidence. When a child witnesses his parents fighting, it has a lot of psychological impact on him. He may behave or react aggressively. Throw temper tantrums. He may feel hostile towards one or both his parents. He may complain of stomach aches, headaches, etc.

It is very necessary for parents to draw the lines of battle. It is very important that they express their anger and communicate their frustration privately, in ways that do not affect children adversely. If any issue has to be resolved, wait till the children are asleep or go into another room. If a child witnesses a fight make it a point to let him know that sometimes parents to fight, but it does not mean that they love each other or their children any less. Explain to a child that losing the temper was a mistake and make every attempt to be normal and united in front of your children as soon as possible.

 

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