Infants try to accomplish simple tasks like rolling over or supporting their head, sitting
up and then taking support and standing. Whenever your child does something and
accomplishes his task, it gives him a feeling of self-satisfaction and boosts his morale.
As the child goes on making efforts, sometimes he fails, but ultimately he will always
succeed. Others impressions and feelings also help to shape one's self-esteem. That is why
the role of the parents is extremely important in developing a healthy self-esteem in
Low Self Esteem and High Self Esteem
If your child has a very high self-esteem
and feels good about himself, he is more capable to go out and face the challenges of
today's world. Children with a high self-esteem show the following characteristics:
* They are comfortable in public scenes and social events.
* They enjoy interacting with others and meeting new people.
* They like challenges and work hard to find solutions.
* They accept their weaknesses and build up on their strength
On the other hand if your child's self-esteem is low, such children will be very conscious
of themselves, they are scared and nervous and always frightened. Such children do not
fare well in school and interpersonal relationships. Children with a low self-esteem show
the following characteristics:
* They are passive in behavior.
* They like to lead a reclusive life.
* They do not like trying new things.
* They talk negatively about themselves.
* They give up very easily if they fail at something.
* They adopt a pessimistic attitude towards life.
As a parent what can one do ?
Children are extremely sensitive to what
their parents say. Therefore be careful not to ridicule or unduly criticize your child.
Encourage and appreciate him, but also be realistic. Act as a role model. As a child, we
all learn to copy what our parents do and we want to be like them. So it is basically the
parent's self-esteem that is reflected in the child's self-esteem. Love your child dearly
and give him a safe and nurtured home environment.
Children who are hit and abused at home or those who see their parents fighting all the
time, develop a very low self esteem and they get depressed and may even start hating
themselves. If your child has a very low self-esteem and no particular reason can be
identified, it may be advisable to seek professional help and take your child to a
counselor. The counselor may help you by understanding the child's problems and find a