As the child grows and
becomes independent, he can judge for himself and make certain decisions. It is the job of
the parents to inculcate in their child a certain amount of sense as well as the feeling
As a parent, what must one do
Psychologists say that children who are brought up in a warm, comfortable and happy home
and are loved and cared for, grow up to be better than those children that are neglected
and unattended. Therefore it is very essential to spend time with your child. Take time
out to play games with them, take them for a walk, let them help you cook and also
actively participate in the child's homework. Parent's must read stories to the child and
watch movies with their child. This will increase the child's listening, social and
creative skills. Talk to your child and educate them about their family, your own
childhood and tell them anecdotes about their childhood from the time they were a few
months old to a few years old.
Be a Role Model
Set yourself as an example for your child to follow. What you expect your child to become
and the qualities that you expect in him, need to be taught to him. Inculcate
responsibility and sensibility in him by you doing the right thing and setting the perfect
example. Children watch and observe others and whatever they see remains firmly imprinted
in their minds. Your child watches you and sees how you deal with life and the various
situations that come across in your life and they ultimately learn to follow you.
The importance of
Teach your child to value and appreciate all other individuals. Every person has his or
her own emotions and feelings, which have to be respected. Teach your child to be
sensitive to the needs of others. Your child should be kind and helpful. A strong, loving
and caring environment teaches your child empathy.
Never, never, never
This lesson of perseverance is a very important lesson, which needs to be taught to all
children. No matter how difficult or painstaking the task may be, one must never give up.
Try till you succeed. This is one of the most important lessons of life that as a parent
you can teach your child. You must tell your child that no one is perfect and you cannot
always be the best in everything that you do (although you can try to be). People make
mistakes and once in a while mistakes do happen. As a parent, you must have realistic
expectations from your child and set reasonable goals for him. If your child has done well
in anything, praise him, support him and encourage him. Your words will have a great
effect on him and go a long way.
Help your child to deal with himself to solve problems. This will make him feel more
capable and competent. For example: If there is a math problem that he needs help with,
although you can do it for him, let him try and do it himself. When he finally does
succeed after trying for a while, he will feel proud of himself and experience a feeling
of satisfaction. When you praise him, your appraisal reinforces the desired behavior.